Have you ever found yourself questioning your relationship endlessly? Not just once in a while, but over and over again? Are you wondering if you chose the right partner, if you really love them, or if they really love you back? That exhausting cycle of doubt and reassurance-seeking is called Relationship OCD (ROCD) and when
Have you ever wondered why you can feel completely alone sitting right next to your spouse? Why no amount of explaining, pleading, or even yelling seems to close the gap? That aching sense of being unseen or uncared for may not just be about what’s happening today. Often, it’s the echo of emotional abandonment in
There are few feelings more gut-wrenching than looking at your spouse and wondering: Does my husband actually hate me? It can creep in after months of silence in the bedroom, or slam into you during another blowout fight where his words cut deeper than he realizes. Maybe you’ve even caught yourself whispering, I think my
You’ve probably heard of Gottman couples therapy. Maybe a friend mentioned it, maybe you came across it in a late-night Google search when your marriage felt shaky. Gottman is one of the most researched and respected approaches out there. But let’s pause here for a moment. Just because it’s well-known and highly regarded doesn’t automatically
You know those nights… the ones where everything just clicks: your desire is matched and everything from touch, to eye contact, to your connection feels easy and right. Passionate sex can feel like the ultimate relationship high. In those moments, it’s easy to believe that everything in your marriage is going to be okay. But
Let’s get honest. If you’re typing “divorce is not an option” into Google, you’re probably in deep pain, but you’re not looking for permission to leave. You’re looking for a way to survive the mess you’re in. Maybe even save it. Perhaps you’re trying to remember why you got married in the first place? Whatever
You didn’t get into this marriage thinking you’d end up here: keeping score, biting your tongue, replaying the same argument over and over in your head. But resentment doesn’t show up overnight. It creeps in slowly. A missed apology. A promise broken. An offhand comment that cut too deep. Over time, all those little hurts
Let’s be honest, some years of marriage just suck. Maybe you’re deep in year one and wondering if you made the biggest mistake of your life. Maybe year seven hit you like a wrecking ball with resentments simmering, sex on the back burner, and parenting disagreements flaring up like wildfire. Or maybe you’ve clocked a
If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance your marriage is hanging by a thread and the connection between you is fraying. Maybe the trust has been shattered. Perhaps you’re in a sexless marriage or facing down infidelity. You may not even be sure if you like each other anymore. And you’re probably exhausted from
When you’re disappointed in your relationship, wondering if there’s a way back from the edge of resentment and contempt, it can be a disorienting place. What I see during Marriage Quest retreats is that couples don’t end up here after one bad fight or a rough week. Resentment in relationships comes after months and years