The psychology of lying in marriage is not black and white. Have you ever caught your spouse in a lie and felt your whole body go cold? Not because the lie itself was necessarily enormous, although maybe it was. But because suddenly you were not sure what else you did not know. Perhaps your spouse
If you have found yourself typing “my husband won’t talk to me” into Google, you are probably not asking a casual question. You are likely tired, hurt, confused, and maybe more angry than you want to admit. Maybe you have tried to start the conversation in the past. You may have cried. Or raised your
Is fighting normal in a relationship? Yes. But that answer needs a very important second sentence. Normal does not always mean healthy. A lot of couples argue. Some couples avoid each other when things are heated. Many couples live in the same house but are slowly building separate emotional lives. That may be common, but
You don’t always notice it at first, maybe it begins with a heaviness felt after you wake up, even after a full night of sleep. Your coffee doesn’t hit the same. Work still pays the bills, but the part of you that once felt useful, driven, or proud has gone a little flat. Then it
Have you started wondering if your spouse even likes you anymore? Maybe no one is screaming. There might not be these huge fights happening in the kitchen and from the outside, your marriage still looks functional. You get the kids where they need to go, pay the bills. You’re all showing up at family events.
Learning about an affair is an incredibly painful moment. And when your spouse has an affair with a colleague it somehow seems to get compounded. Now you’re sitting with the question: Can we recover from this? Which gets exacerbated because this is someone they will continue to see as long as they’re both working together.
Have you said this out loud yet? “We’ve been to three therapists… why isn’t this working?” I hear this more often than you’d think. And it usually doesn’t come up in some calm, reflective moment. It shows up after another fight in the car, or in that heavy silence at night, or right after one
Have you ever had the thought that if you stopped trying, the whole relationship would just… fade out? No more “we should talk.” No more circling back to the same conversations or making an effort to fix what’s been off for a long time. Just two people coexisting, getting through the day, handling logistics. And
I hear this one a lot, and it’s not the couples who are yelling or threatening divorce that bring this up first. It usually shows up in an almost resigned way. Someone will say, “We’re more like roommates,” or “We run the house really well,” or “We co-parent, we co-exist… but we feel more like
Have you found yourself saying, “I can’t do this alone anymore… but they won’t come with me.” You want help but you know your spouse won’t go to counseling. So you bring it up gently, or not so gently. You ask, “Can we go to counseling?” You try again a few weeks later. Maybe it