Crisis counseling for couples is focused relationship therapy for couples who know the status quo is no longer sustainable and need something to change now. Usually, one or both partners are tired of living in limbo. They may have been talking about divorce, sleeping separately, recovering from an affair, fighting constantly, or spending months—or years—trying
Yes. If your spouse misses their affair partner, your marriage can still be saved. Missing that person does not automatically mean your spouse loves them more, chose the wrong partner, or cannot recommit to you. But you do have to deal with why the affair happened in the first place. That part gets uncomfortable, because
Living alone together usually means you have stopped functioning like a couple even though you still share a home, a family, and a life. You still care about each other and may not want a divorce. But somewhere along the way, the marriage became two separate people living under the same roof. If that sounds
Intimacy after infidelity can feel frightening, confusing, and almost impossible to imagine. You may still love your husband and want to rebuild the marriage, but the thought of touching him again, letting him see your body, or becoming vulnerable in that way can bring up fear, anger, humiliation, or disgust. Then another layer gets added.
People sometimes ask me if a Marriage Quest retreat is really just marathon couples therapy. It’s a fair question. If all we did was take eight or nine traditional therapy sessions and stack them together over a weekend, I’d probably have the same question. But that’s not actually what happens. The biggest difference isn’t the
People occasionally ask me how a Marriage Quest retreat compares to Imago Relationship Therapy. It’s a good question, and I want to answer it honestly because I actually think there are more similarities than differences. From what I understand, Imago Relationship Therapy and Marriage Quest share many of the same values. Both approaches recognize that
If you have found yourself saying, “We can’t stop arguing, but we don’t want to break up,” I want you to know that you are describing most of the couples I work with. Honestly, very few people come to me because they truly want a divorce. Most come because the status quo has become unsustainable.
The psychology of lying in marriage is not black and white. Have you ever caught your spouse in a lie and felt your whole body go cold? Not because the lie itself was necessarily enormous, although maybe it was. But because suddenly you were not sure what else you did not know. Perhaps your spouse
If you have found yourself typing “my husband won’t talk to me” into Google, you are probably not asking a casual question. You are likely tired, hurt, confused, and maybe more angry than you want to admit. Maybe you have tried to start the conversation in the past. You may have cried. Or raised your
Is fighting normal in a relationship? Yes. But that answer needs a very important second sentence. Normal does not always mean healthy. A lot of couples argue. Some couples avoid each other when things are heated. Many couples live in the same house but are slowly building separate emotional lives. That may be common, but